As more and more of our family and friends learn of our plans to adopt, many have wondered, "How can I help?" We are definitely not above help so here are some ways! :)
First: Help us advertise. It's estimated that one half to two thirds of all adoptions are independent adoptions. That means that the adoptions are done without the help of an agency. Although we are having an agency advertise for us, we still need others to help us get the word out. We created a pass along card for this purpose. Hang one on your fridge. Give one to your church clergy. Take them to your local women's shelter or family planning clinic. Give one to your ob-gyn. Hang one in your office at work. You never know who will see it who knows somebody who wants to place a baby. Put this blog address on your blog. Do a little post about us: www.justinandlarahope2adopt.blogspot.com
Second: Please be an advocate for adoption in general. If you are a member of the LDS church, please become familiar with the Church's policy on adoption (while the word from the prophet is clear, there are still a staggering amount of single teen mothers in the Church). Support friends and family who are going through unplanned pregnancies and encourage them to consider adoption.
Third. Donate. We've already had so many people generously give us money, gifts, and used baby items. These gifts are so helpful and meaningful. Adoption is humbling in so many ways, and this is definitely one of them. We've had so many people ask how they can help support us financially that we have created an account through PayPal to provide an easy way for all of you to safely donate to our fund. We have already spent over $2000 out of pocket in the last three months and we will probably spend around $10,000 more by the time everything is said and done. So at your request, I've added a link on the side of the blog for those who would like to donate money. If you would like to donate anything else, we humbly thank you. Just leave us a post.
On a different note, one of our pass along cards is showing some promise. There is a woman Justin works with, we'll call her J, whose son's girlfriend, M, is pregnant (the current boyfriend is not the father). M has been considering terminating the pregnancy, but J convinced her to consider adoption and gave her a pass along card. M checked out our blog and emailed us and asked to see us. She lives in the state, about an hour away, so we made a trip last week and took J and M out to dinner. I can't imagine the meeting going any better. M is still unsure of what she would like to do, but she says that if she decides on adoption, we are the family for her, she doesn't want to look at anyone else. So that is the good news. The bad news is that she can still decide to terminate the pregnancy or she can decide to parent. She is 17 weeks pregnant and due in late March. She is coming to Idaho Falls for her 20 week ultra sound the first week of November and wants to see us again then. So we are praying for her at this time. Our agency says to prepare for a failed adoption attempt for every child, so while we are hopeful, we are still guarded. Adoption papers cannot be signed until 72 hours after the birth of the baby, so there is plenty of time for a mother to change her mind.
So while our contact with M is exciting, we still need your help advertising and promoting us. Thank you, thank you, thank you for all your support!