You know how tail-lights go on every time you tap the brake pedal? My tears turn on every time I have some kind of "confrontation". And I mean "confrontation" in the loosest sense possible. Telling a waiter I don't like the food. Opening up to my boss about an aspect of my job I don't like. Explaining to my husband that I need some Lara time because he's been working too late. Whatever it is, I cry. The most embarrassing situations are when I cry at work. I try to control it. And while I no longer sob with massive tears rolling down my cheeks, my eyes will turn red and watery, my nose will run, and my voice will get shaky.
Are there any ways to avoid this or overcome this? I feel like it's unprofessional. It makes coworkers/supervisors uncomfortable. I feel less credible. Is there something to control this? I have a couple things I try. If I'm just getting a bit blurry-eyed listening to something that bothers me, I fake a few sneezes. That usually covers up the watery eyes and runny nose. Or if I know I'm going in for a doozy, I chew gum. It helps keep my mouth busy and buys me time to get my voice under control. I also try to engage my left brain (logic) as much as possible. I will look to my left. I will mentally recite math equations (1 plus 1 is 2. 2 plus 2 is 4...and so on).