Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Once a Dad, Always a Dad
Here's the thing....
I've been a home owner for nearly four years.
And another thing...this is so Dad.
Recently Justin made a comment that he wondered if my dad thought he was inept at stuff because my dad would always give reminders and instructions on how to do stuff. I had to laugh because I never thought how it would feel to someone who didn't grow up with the constant thoroughness of my father. All of us kids joke about the "Dad Speech" we get anytime we're going to drive somewhere. We all have it memorized. In fact, we usually thwart the speech with this one of our own. "Yes, I'll remember to check the oil and tire pressure. I'll watch for deer around Malad. I'll be careful of black ice, especially in shady spots and on the north sides of bridges. And I'll call when I get there."
I've been driving for over a dozen years. I'm a married woman with a child. And my dad still reminds me to watch for deer and black ice. It's one of his ways of saying, "I love you."
One time as teenagers (or kids in their twenties) my siblings and I wrote a tongue-in-cheek letter to Santa which we left by the cookies. In it we explained to Santa how to properly open and close a door when others are sleeping so as not to make noise. We instructed him to wipe his feet on the mat and clean up any reindeer souvenirs. We even told him if he needed to use the bathroom to not flush if it was between 2 and 4 a.m. because the water softener would be running. Basically, it was all the advice our father had drilled into our heads over the years. The joke was taken well and Santa didn't even mess up the water softener schedule.
In a way, it's kind of silly that my dad would call to tell me to check my hoses. But again, it's one of his ways of saying, "I love you, Lara." Think about it. My father, who lives over five hundred miles away in southern Utah, was checking the weather where his daughter lived. He saw there would be a cold front and thought about the time of year. Mid-autumn. Without any major cold weather yet, he knew the odds of me having my hoses still attached to my home were high. And he knew that could lead to burst pipes. flooding, major expenses, and headaches. And so he thought to call with that little reminder. It really brings a lump to my throat.
Like I told Justin, my dad doesn't say these things because he thinks we're inept. It's one of his many, many ways of showing how much he thinks about us all and loves us. And, Dad, I love you, too.
And truth be known....my hoses actually were still attached.