So I am doing yesterday’s post today. And hopefully I will do today’s post later today. Hope you’re not tired of me yet, we’re only half-way through the month.
So today (um, yesterday) I am very grateful for my job. Yes, it’s a blessing to have a job, especially in this unsure economy. But I am very grateful for my job. It is really, really cool to be able to do something I love all day every day. It’s beyond nice to have a creative outlet that I get paid for. It is amazingly fulfilling to be surrounded by kindred creative spirits who just get that off-beat quirkiness that all us artsy-fartsy types seem to have. It is inspiring to have a boss who hosts creative extravaganzas like Waffestival and Lego building parties and sock puppet shows. Did I say extravaganzas? I meant meetings. My boss holds amazing meetings. Because they are always work related. I am grateful for a company that truly cares about its employees. I was too sick to attend, but last week I was awarded—in front of the entire company—a five thousand dollar bonus for being here for five years. At ten years, I get ten thousand dollars…at twenty years, yep, twenty grand. I am grateful for steady pay, for benefits, for predictable vacation days, all that jazz. I feel forever lucky to be where I am.
I was asked this question on Formspring:
Are there any adoption question you get sick of people asking you?
And my answer is…sort of?
I actually don’t get asked a lot about adoption in real life. Blogging is actually where I talk about it the most. One of the most frequently asked questions (when I do get asked—and it’s always by someone genuinely interested, not just flippantly curious) is about cost. And I totally don’t mind talking about that. When we embarked on the adoption journey that was a BIG question that loomed in our minds and I was always afraid to ask/talk about it because talking about money is “just plain rude” in our society, which I think is wrong and breeds ignorance which then breeds bad financial choices which is why I am trying to be more transparent about my finances in general. Take a breath. J
The question I get that kind of irritates me is when people ask when we are going to adopt again. I think the root of this irritation stems from my infertility and being asked for many years when we were going to have children. It’s not a question of a stork magically placing a baby in the nursery, it is far more complicated. I don’t get why people feel like money is such a taboo subject but asking someone about the progress of their intimate life is not.
So asking when we are going to adopt again is tricky. We would like to. I think we will. But it’s more complicated than just putting away the birth control pills. Timing is tricky because we never know how long/short the waiting period will be, there is a complicated financial aspect, the working mom/childcare aspect comes into play, plus the regular emotional stuff of “are we ready to do this again?” that all parents go through.
So, yeah, I kind of get tired of that question.